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Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Family vs Friends vs What i Really Want to Do

Assalamualaikum~


Huuhhhh... It has been a while since i last blogged.
I tried blogging more often, but somehow i couldn't get the time to sit and type away relaxedly.
I'd rather just be with my kids and do whatever i need to with them, because whenever they see me at the computer, they'd do anything to make it stressful for me bahahhaahaaa!

And then there's that.
Family vs Friends vs What I Really Want To Do.

A few days ago on June 9th 2017, a dear friend of mine, Shea Rasol, has passed on.. It was heart breaking..

Last year, at our regular yearly preloved ramadhan sale, she told me she had stabbing pains in her stomach area and back then, she suspected it was batu karang. Then after a few weeks, i texted her asking how she was doing and that was when she told me she was diagnosed with cancer. She had urachal cancer, a rare type..
Of course i was devastated..


The last time i saw her was actually at that preloved sale last year. *cries*

I kept asking if i could go meet her but because of her chemotherapy, and then her health & strength was sliding, i knew she wasn't looking for time to lepak. She was using her time to get closer to Allah and i completely respect that.

But then, still.. I feel so guilty.. For not texting her more and MAKE her see me. Haha!
Do you know that one person (or many, idk) yang macam tak kisah orang tu kisah ke tak, aku nak jumpa aku jumpa gak. <- this person don't live with regrets and i admire this kind of person.

Now nak regret pun buat apa kan.. Tapi at least i am glad that i did do something for her. I gave her a "Comfort Kit" which were Typo stuff: bantal, notebook & a heart badge because that's her brand. Her sister told me that she used the bantal so that made me feel a little less guilty. I do wish i did see her though when she was healthier. Macam takde rezeki sebab bila pergi hantar the comfort kit, she wasn't home.. Oh well.
I went to see her everyday since she was admitted in the hospital after we got the message that she collapsed. I had to leave my kids with hubs and sometimes my mom when i went and itupun boleh buat i rasa guilty for my kids and my mom..

And on the day of her passing, i missed her by a few minutes je.. My husband drove me to the hospital with the kids, and when i got the news, sebab dah dalam kereta and dah gerak dah, so tak dapat nak patah balik..
So macam sedih gila. I never cried so hard for many days, for so long..

However, mashaAllah, subhanallah, alhamdulillah.. She was loved by so many that on the day of her perkebumian, the masjid was filled with people praying for her! Made me feel so awed that this person is actually a friend of mine and i felt soooo honoured and grateful to know such a person. Allah truly has chosen someone super special, that she left in the holiest month and on a Friday, and gave her time to repent and get closer to Him. =')

May Allah accepts all her good deeds, erased her sins and elevates her rank in the Heavens, inshaAllah.. Al fatihah for arwah Farah Syahirah..

You are sorely missed.


So..
At the state she was in when i saw her, i felt angry at myself.

Kenapa i had to see her in this circumstance? Kenapa masa masa macam ni baru dapat jumpa my friends? Kenapa i tak just do what i want to do, regardless how my kids are? Kenapa i keep making my family like my barrier from doing things i want, going wherever i want and meeting people i care about?

I deeply love my family, yes, but i love my sanity too. And i thought i've been doing what i've wanted all this while, but when this happened, i realised that i haven't done anything out of my comfort zone since i had my kids.
Nadrah & Isaac can be a handful when we're in public places. They somehow can drain my mental and physical energy in 30minutes when we're out. Sebab i ni memang selalu alone with the kids doing grocery shopping, or whatever, kadang kadang masa tengah makan ke, tengah shopping ke, tengah something la, dan dan je masa tu nadrah nak shishi, pastu isaac terberak. Pastu kita berlari lari ke tandas =')

I always have to be stern with nadrah because she likes to run around, so imagine kalau bawak kenduri kawen or majlis, aduih.. poning den. And when she throws tantrums, it's like dunia ni dah tonggang terbalik. Isaac lak dah start tanak duduk diam. So rather than going through all this kerenah, sakit hati, sakit mental dan sakit jiwa raga, i just avoid going to gatherings and stuff especially if i need to bring the kids along, which is like yeah: All. The. Time.
Housewife/StayAtHomeMom/WorkAtHomeMom camtu la gayanya. For me la.

If i can go cuckoo with my own kids, i can't imagine how they drive my mom craycray too. That's why i feel guilty whenever i had to leave them with me madre..

I remember how that one day, we were eating at a restaurant, and our kids were going all out tantrum: nadrah nak something, tak dapat, then nangis. We gave in to her to make her quiet but she still went at it. Isaac lak tak sedap duduk, nak jalan, letak dalam baby chair mengamuk, bila dukung, dia tolak tolak ("kang aku lepas, jatuh, nangis. aku kena marah suami lak.. aduduuhhh"), and then i don't remember who, one of them just pushed a cup and habis tumpah air pastu orang macam "*inhaled* huuuhhhh!".
And hubs and i looked around, and we both macam "kenapa budak budak lain sume okay je? Boleh duduk diam, makan tertib, relax?".
Then we looked at our kids and the mess they made.

At that moment, i remember, i really really felt drained and held back my tears.
Baru 4 years being a parent and i have tried so many "tips & tricks" on how to handle kids and nurture them and still, i feel like nothing worked.

Now that i've lost 2 friends, i know i need to change something.

I need a nanny.

Ok tak la. Haha! I need to buck up and just face it with the kids. Whether they drive me crazy, breaking my back and shoulders, i need to stop making them an excuse to not do things i want.
I don't know how yet and i need to figure that out.
I do not want to regret the missed opportunities.

If you have some kind of same experience as me, please do share your tips & tricks kot kot maybe i tak try lagi ke... Or like share your advices on how you manage your (hyper?) kids when you guys are out in public places?
Or maybe since it's zaman technology, instead of going to places, i should bring places to me? Using facetime or skype or whatever? Tetiba bagi idea kat diri sendiri bahahahaha!
In all seriousness, if you have any advice on not missing out while being an acting-single-parent, please do share.

I love my children. I love my children. I love my children.
I can do this. I can do this. I can do this.
=')


.... i love me too, and my families, and my friends, and all you readers...
(help)



Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Website builder: Wix vs Weebly vs Squarespace vs Shopify vs Avana Asia (Malaysia based)

Ha amik kau.
Heheheee

Ok, so here's an intro.
I recently just started my new business, www.marzea.com (selling shawls and hair growth oil. yaaasss!), and due to budget constraint, i could not hire a website developer and instead tried making my own.

Hence, ze title!

Now, first things first,
I AM NOT A TECHY! I repeat, not a techy, not good at all this coding whatever so don't come commenting and telling me i should get on Wordpress. I slap yo face. Haha =p

Secondly,
Website builders are not free. Sure, some may offer free trial for you to try and see whether the program suits your taste and ability.

Thirdly,
Because i am not some techy person with unlimited money, i had tried them and here, i am going to share my views on them. Whether you agree or not, that's up to you. You can further your research k! =)

So maybe some of you are like "What is a website builder?". It's basically a self-service website where we can create our own website, using the tools in their program, and voila! No need to use coding whatshiznot.

1. WIX

For Wix, i find that it's quite easy to navigate, understand and create a website. They have nice themes too! Cost wise, i think it's ok la. Not that expensive.

Price wise:

Pricing for WIX

These are some of the themes for the online stores. Their themes are mostly clean, sophisticated and simple.

Good thing about Wix is, for a noob, memang senang nak catch up how to use the editor. All we need to do is drag and drop whatever elements we want on the website. It's also mobile friendly, which means we can also edit the website for phone's POV. Cool kan?

This is how the editing page looks like. On the left sidebar is all the elements we can add/move on the web, and the right sidebar is all the details to edit the elements. Pretty straight forward.

So as you can see from the price, they're in USD, so kena times 4.43. We can use the website for free but of course there will be wix ads everywhere and limited things we can use. Also, the website url is kinda ugly (if you're not getting a domain la). It's like marzea.wixsite.com/marzea
To me, it's menyusahkan la kalau nak orang shop at your page, but the url is not easy to remember.

The ecommerce plan was what i was going for, but KIV dulu. Cuba website builder lain.

2. WEEBLY

It has a somewhat same concept as Wix, but it's a bit different in the way we get to edit our website. You can see my trial one here: marzea.weebly.com (at least the url is not as ugly at wix's! Hehe!). It's a bit more complicated when trying to sort the pages, coz, obviously we'll be having pages kan. Like a page for shawls, a page for clothes, etc. There's no drop-down categories too.

Price wise:
There's more scrolling down on the page though. You can check them out here (and find the plans page).

So for businesses, it's $25 a month if you're signing up for a year. You can opt for monthly plans, but it'll be $35 kalau tak salah.

Just like Wix, their themes are clean, simple and cool.


This is how the editing page looks like. It is full of elements on the left sidebar, but it's a bit confusing to use. 


BUT!! What turned me off immediately about Weebly, is the payment when customer checkout.
They have only these 3 options! 
At least Wix has a manual payment option..



Squarespace is really WOW. I mean the templates and themes.
Very sleek, chic and super clean. 


I was excited to try out their templates.
They give 14days free trial. But my problem with it is that it's not as user-friendly as both Wix and Weebly. It's not as responsive either. Most of the time i had no idea what i was doing and why whatever i was doing did not appear. Haha! For noobies like me, i think this'll require loads of patience.

Price wise:


Quite pricey like Weebly if opting for the basic business plan.

See, this is the editing page and there isn't like a proper navigation. No drag and drop kinda thing here. It has "Demo" (which doesn't explain much though). 

Because i have no patience and it's too pricey for me, i tried the next one.




TERUS TAK JADI!
MAHAL NYA!

But for the sake of comparison, cuba la the 14days trial.

So they have free themes, and also paid ones.
Obviously i tried the free one la. Heheee.. Even free, they're nice! 


It's quite easy and straight forward to edit the website. Perhaps diorang dah pro sangat pasal online businesses, they just know what we need, so there isn't much editing needed.

I think because Shopify is specifically for businesses, so they have all the tools we need, like demographics of customers, their behaviours, and also reports on which campaign works and stuff. It's very focused. If it wasn't so expensive, this would be my choice!

Alas...... T_T



Bukak page terus nampak muka Ameera Zaini, mana tak tergugat jantung? Hehehe!!
They give 30days free trial, which i tried first obvs.

Price wise:
See more here



This part here where i just stopped and stared. They can automate Facebook selling instead of us penat penat buat sendiri.
I think the Business plan is suitable for those yang betul betul nak blast brand and have high budget.
The beginner may not have the facebook blast thing, but it works on facebook too.

Theme and templates are pretty basic. Not as sophisticated as SQUARESPACE fo sho. And not editable like Wix, Weebly, Squarespace and Shopify. They don't have multiple pages for products, and instead it's a drop-down category (which is not entirely editable too).


Banyak nye Meeraaaaaa! Hehe!

Very simple theme but hey, it works for me! Hehe

Now i think Avana's strength is in its integration with Facebook.

This is Marzea's FB page, and you can even shop there!

You can even click on individual pictures oh the "Photos", and just type "pm" and you'll get an automated response.
Cool innit?


In case you're wondering, i took the Beginner's Plan (coz i don't really need the Facebook full blast actions, yet). And then i topped up RM 60 for the domain.

In terms of administrative stuff, it's pretty basic and ok la. Nothing much, so not much to complain too. Although, i do wish we could personalise the messages to send to customers when payment is pending ke, processing, and shipped. Avana doesn't provide that. Actually i think all of them don't have this...? Tak tau la sebab tak cuba lak! 

Overall, Wix & Weebly have clearer editing tools for the website, Squarespace is good for people who goes for aesthetic value, Shopify is complete business website but too expensive for me, and Avana has facebook in its pockets.

ANYWAYS, i would've opted for Shopify for the complete business overview and simplicity in editing the website, but it cost too much.. Wix was a second go, but when convert to RM, it's more expensive than Avana.
And i saw some reviews online that Wix doesn't completely get rid of their ads even when people have upgraded their plan. 

You guys can check out this blog for more intensive review on the website builders k!

And of course, if you have a big budget, you can always hire a website developer! 

Ok i guess that's it!
I hope this is helpful in any way!
All the best ya you guys yang nak start your businesses!
Hope you all can support mine =)




Tuesday, March 7, 2017

#Ummitips: How to handle the "Terrible Two" phase

Haritu ada orang tanya i how i handle Nadrah at her "terrible two" phase...


Assalamualaikum!


Bahahahaa!
Nangis sebab kelakar tapi sebenarnya tak kelakar langsung sebab Nadrah bukan setakat "terrible two", she also had "terrible three"!

It's a very common phenomenon among toddlers to have this so-called-phases, because it is part of their growth. Emotionally and psychologically.

This phase is where they could not understand their sudden burst of feelings.
For example, they don't know they're feeling frustrated, disappointed, excited, confused, and all those big emotions.
They just know angry, sad, happy, hungry, sleepy, you know, the super basic stuff.

Pernah tak, your child tengah super excited about something, and then suddenly dia meragam buang tantrum?
Yeah.
I had gone through those times hahaha!

At first, memang i sakit hati la. Kita nak happy happy, tiba tiba dia nak meragam pulak. Pasal the smallest things lak tu!
That's why i memang avoid going to crowded places, because i knew i wouldn't be able to enjoy myself, and Nadrah would be throwing tantrums and stuff.
It's been yearsssss! This year baru i rasa dia ok sikit. Controllable.

So what's the secret?

1. PATIENCE.

Like, omg, that is soooo basic. I hear you. It is basic.
Nadrah losing it at Pompeii.

Also,

2. EMPATHY.

We gotta think like them. Understand them. I really struggled through it at first, but when i can, i try to think about what my kid is going through. When i know she'll get upset over small things when she's excited, i don't get her excited.
Like the time when we took her to the Farm in the City. We didn't tell her we were going to see animals, until we were IN the farm.
Serious!

We don't tell her things ahead of time because this little being have no patience. She'll pester on and on and on until she herself get disappointed and that'll ruin her mood when the time has come.

But then, maybe it's them being hungry or sleepy or both. Just gotta try and error la.

Now this trick, my husband did it and it worked.

3. WHISPER IN THEIR EAR WHEN THEY'RE THROWING A FIT.

Many times when Nadrah was screaming and stuff, my husband just hug her, and whisper in her ear. She just quiets down for a while because she got confused and she's curious.
One time, Nadrah was crying like crazy because she wanted to watch Hi5 and then my husband just kneeled in front of her, hugged her, and whispered something in her ear. Suddenly, she started laughing!
Know what my husband whispered?

"....no..."

Hahahaha! Even i laughed! The pause, and the curt 'no' was just enough to break Nadrah's pattern. So i pun adapt to that (when i can).

Me gossiping with Nadrah hahaha

Compared to my husband, i am less patient, so i'm glad he's able to take over Nadrah's entahpape-ness.

Sometimes though, when you can't deal with the tantrum,

4. IGNORE.

Distract yourself with something else for 5 minutes. Just to make you calm down, just to make your mind get in the right state, because i tell ya, this tantrum thing, if it gets to you, who knows what your anger would do! So, dari membahayakan diri dan orang sekeliling, chill. Take it.
My chill 'pill' is watching funny videos on instagram. It's short, funny, and just enough to get me back in the right state of mind.

And you know, if you really really can't deal with their tantrum, i'm sorry for suggesting this, but

5. GIVE THEM SOME "DISTRACTIONS".

Like watching something on Youtube kids (it's an app. get it. filter it.), or tv, or let them play with something of yours that they really want (but you didn't let them). Letting them watch something on tv or ipad or phone, does not make you a bad parent. Serious. We all understand! It's a different generation now, a different species of brain i tell ya. They're more intelligent, kan!
But of course, don't let them watch it for too long.

I used to tell Nadrah when she threw her tantrum,
"When you stop crying, i will let you watch peppa pig"

And she will. And then when she watches, i will strictly tell her that she can watch 1 or 2 shows. After that, she needs my permission.

Until now she asks for my permission when she wants to watch something bahahahhaa!
Good. You better. I'm watching you nadrah, even when i'm not looking.

Tau takut.

I also have this makeup brushes that i got which has cute flowers on it and Nadrah really wanted it. I don't mind her playing with it pun actually 'cause it's cheap ones, but i didn't. I only let her play with it when she got into her mood. It made her soooooo thankful and curious, that she stopped whatever she was doing and focused on playing with my brushes. You should have that "secret weapon" too!

I know some of you are too tired to take your kids out. But really,

6. TAKE YOUR KIDS OUT TO THE PARK/PLAYGROUND/SWIMMING POOL

..because i saw a lot of changes when Nadrah started going to the playground or swimming pool everyday. We live in a condominium, so she knows lots of kids here. Somehow the kids playing together (eventhough it will end up with someone crying or getting angry), it made her more tolerant at home. Maybe all that bottled up emotions just flew away when they're playing...
Maybe la, i'm not sure.
Just try anyway. Maybe just outside your house pun boleh la. Main rumput ke.. I don't know! Haha! You can find some stuff on toddler activities on Pinterest. Try check that out!

I think tu je kot for now.
I'm hoping that Isaac is tolerable when he gets to this phase. Perhaps i'd have to read this back! Bahaha!

Clearly unimpressed..

At the end of the day, it's annoying when we let it get to us.
This is something important:
When it starts to annoy me, i try to change how i see it. If i'm not in the mood to change my state, then i tell her to go to her dad.

Bahahaha!
Me, trying hard not to show my tears inside my heart. And nadrah with her overly pink lips because it was dry.



Hope this helps you mommies handle your child at this age!
Don't worry, it doesn't last forever!! Just, quite a while la. Hehe!

Sabar yeee!


*all pics were from our Pompeii visit in 2015. hoho.. menyesal pergi tanpa suami. seksa sorang sorang. hahaha!







Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Saving Space

Assalamualaikum~


I remember once upon a time, when i was in school, my friends and i would be amazed at people who lives in condominiums.

"Wah! Kaya nyaaa!", i thought when i met my friend who said she stayed in a condo.

Now, times have changed!
I hear people living in a house, i'll be like "fuuuuhh.. Rezeki dia..".

Probably because when i was younger, living in a condo means having a swimming pool, which is a HUGE luxury, isn't it?
Now, having a front lawn, or a second floor is like THE SHIZ, you know?

Hehehe!

Now that our little family is living in a condo, i finally realise how small it is for the 4 of us, and how much nonsense we've been collecting over the years. It's ridiculous!
Like my husband's boxes (which he needs because kononnya we need it in future. Ugh, one time, we dismantled our Astro, and he was so proud that he kept the box. Kept looking over at me as if he's justifying his box-hoarding habit is useful..), and my notebooks and pouches (which i buy for no reason at all, other than "it's so cute!" and "oh, i might want to use this someday" - which did not happen. I somehow always end up using the freebie notebooks.. Nadrah uses a lot of my pouches though. To put in her dried up playdohs..), and NADRAH's TOYS! (which most of them she doesn't even play with!! She always play with MY STUFF like my pouches, the curtain rope-thing, and ISAAC's TOYS.. which is actually Nadrah's old baby toys.. hehe..).

So i've been trying to make up some space by giving away our armchair, some tables, i sold of a lot of my clothes, shawls and bags (not notebooks.. no! never them!), bought some drawers and cupboards for us to hoard our shoes (husband and nadrah got more shoes than i do. Serious!) and some letters, files, etc.

Now, alhamdulillah, looks like we've managed to open up some space for the kids to roam about, and by kids, i mean Isaac because he's starting to crawl everywhere. Hehee..
It's all good.

Through all this, I've learnt to let go of stuff i don't need. Other than my notebooks. Which is good la kan! I used to be so clingy on my stuff.. And i also have learnt (and still learning) to buy things i NEED. The 'wants' boleh la, but once in a while. If i have a 'want', i will try and get the cheapest version i can get.
For example, there was this one time when i really really wanted to get vacuum. The one we had was ok but it can't do much. So i browsed at shops, online, and finally i found one that does everything i need and it's within my budget! Punya la bersungguh sungguh kan. Hehe!
I always put a budget on the things i want so that i don't bust my husband's and my savings. =p

The hardest part was shopping for clothes. I had to unfollow some fashionistas on instagram because i don't want them to influence my shopping nafsu. Bahahahaha!
It's way better now compared to last time, alhamdulillah. I used to be such an impulsive shopper! Now, i can rationalise first before putting that thing on the cashier counter. It took a looootttt of hard work, you know, to tame that nafsu!



Now that we're talking about saving spaces, i got the Cosatto Pitter Patter Highchair!

I know, i know.. It's not exactly "the cheapest thing" in the house, but it's the quality that we want! (and it's a gift for the kids, so.. alhamdulillah! save budget. hehe!)
The other thing i learnt is that, when it comes to the kids, try get the ones that lasts long. Like nadrah's stroller that we bought. It cost a lot, but alhamdulillah, can still use for Isaac! Still going strong and steady. 

FYI, we have the ikea highchair, and eventhough it's cheap.. it's sooo annoying!!
I hate how the legs of their highchair is super spreaded-out like a spider. All of us have tripped over it so many times! EVEN WHEN PUSHED TO THE WALL! And ours is all rickety already.. It was a blessing that we got this Cosatto Pitter Patter Highchair! 

Cosatto Pitter Patter Highchair is collapsable, and its legs are not spreaded out like crazy, it's super safe and can be used until the kids are in their teens. Haha! I mean it can be passed down for years la. It's one of the best highchairs, according to this review. The tray can be moved to the back if you don't want to use it. Warranty is 2 years, and you can get this at Baby Dots TTDI.
I love how Isaac looks comfy in it too =)

Playing with the toys (which is anything really..) while ummi works next to him.

Awwww.. My handsome smiley boy!! 


Here's to living minimally, letting go unnecessary stuff and no cluttering!
InshaAllah. Amiin. 
Heheheeee =p






Saturday, January 28, 2017

#Ummitips: What to pack in a Diaper Bag

Assalamualaikum!


Now that Isaac is weaning off susu (he's starting to eat la, i mean), he's been pooping like atom bomb just dropped in his diapers and sends of splashes of poop to the outside world.
It's stinky & messy. Super messy!

I had to change him in public toilets so many times and so many different places.
And i noticed some moms were not equipped with the right stuff. For example, the other day, i had to change Isaac at a petrol station, and eventhough the toilet was TOP NOTCH, the baby changing area wasn't complete. There was no changing table with the padded mattress, it was just a hard marble table.

Just that, i didn't face this kind of thing with Nadrah when she was a baby. I don't know if this is a boy-girl thing or is it just the way my kids are as individuals. I did la had some difficulties with Nadrah dulu, but now that i'm more prepared, i thought i'd share to new moms out there.

Ok!!


What to pack in a DIAPER BAG!


This was Nadrah's diaper bag, which has now passed down to Isaac. My first advice to you moms, get a bag that has neutral colours so both boy and girl baby can use them. And it's gonna be dirty so don't go getting the kind that get's dirty easily. I find canvas-like material is best.

So you see, i have a foldable changing pad which has saved me so many times. One time, i had to change Isaac at a place that does not have baby changing area. So i had to do it at the sink, where i washed him, and used the changing pad to put in between the sinks to put his diapers on.
Doesn't sound easy, but it actually was. Haha!

The small blanket is used to cover him when it rains, and of course when it gets cold. Isaac doesn't get cold, he doesn't like the blanket, but i always use it when it rains especially, just an extra coverage when he's in the stroller or when he's in our arms.

Flu meds, coz Isaac sometimes gets blocked nose.

Water, well you know what water's for. Bahahahaaa~
Of course remember to pack your baby's milk. Either breastmilk or formula, don't matter. That stuff is important okay. If you want, pack some baby snacks too.

Here's the delicious bit:
The diaper stuffffff~


Jeng jeng! I got this small bag at Daiso. You can find prettier ones or better ones everywhere. I just chose this coz i need practical. Heeee..

1. Vaseline/petroleum jelly. 
I bought a big tub of vaseline, and i transferred some into a small container. Lighter init? This is for my son's face rash. He gets heat rash, so this helps a lot.

2. Rash ointment.
It's a small sample which is super convenient. Light.

3. Mouth towel.
Coz he eats and stuff. 

4. Moisturising lotion 
Coz sometimes i had to bathe him in public. Hahaha! If we're in a cold place, i'll put this lotion on. Otherwise, i don't.

5. Extra socks
Coz of the rain, you know. 

6. Small towel
Now this towel is super important to me. I use this to wipe him when i'm done washing him up. Like i mentioned earlier, he sometimes poop so much that it explodes out of his diapers... ewwww, i know. Hehee

7. Extra onesie, wet wipes and diapers
I usually pack 3 pieces of diapers, in case. A onesie, because, you know. Explosion. And wet wipes, for obvious reason.


So my usual method is, bring the baby and the diaper bag to the changing room or toilet, and place baby on a comfortable and safe surface. Then i take out these 3 things:
Diaper, wet wipes, towel.

First, open spoilt diaper, wipe (if can), then wash. Use towel and wipe dry.
Throw spoilt diaper, put fresh new one on, put clothes on, and done.

If your baby is into the turning or rolling about phase, my advise is, just wash. No need to use wet wipes. What i do is put my baby in the sink, and do all the business there. Quick and no pain. Heheheee =p

If you also have a toddler in tow, pack an extra undies and clothes too. I do coz, you know, we can never know what may happen. Water spill, or "sheeesheee accidents", etc. Better safe than having to spend for new clothes! 


This is just for reference. Obviously you can bring whatever else you want too ok! =D
Hope this helps!

Sunday, December 4, 2016

#Ummitips: How to teach kids to talk

Assalamualaikum!


I made a video on how i taught Nadrah to talk and learn words, but it was very all over the place coz i didn't plan on doing the video in the first place bahahahaaaa~

Sort of like a 'spur of the moment' kinda thing.

So ok, almost everytime i post a video of Nadrah on instagram, mesti ada yang tanya how i taught her to speak english and how she knows so many words for her age. I honestly don't know how many words a 3 year old should have, but thanks anyway for the compliment! Heheee..

Now, as a reminder, i am not a 'parenting expert', a 'child-development-enthusiast', a 'my-school-is-better-than-your-school-kinda-mom', i'm a noob parent. Like you kot. Bahahaaa~

Let's get started, shall we?

Ok. Bismillah.

1. Introduce new words when they're ready.
Start simple je. Make them do some mouth exercises when they can, like "mama", "lala", "bubu", even if they don't make sense! Hehehee..
And then when they're able, advance to "mami", "lilu", "hahu", etc.
Well you get it kan?

2. Talk. A lot. And singing helps too.
Even when you know they don't understand. Bahahaa! =p
Kadang2 penat bercakap. But oh well. Talk is cheap though. Heheheheeeeee
I let Nadrah watch Hi5 when she turned 1. Coz she's not into cartoons (then), so watching Hi5 was the best. She learnt body coordination, balance and slowly started imitating the dance moves, which is good la kan. But i didn't give her much tv time. Her dad does -_-"
I learnt Hi5 songs too so that we can sing and dance together. I banyak lupa lagu nursery rhymes, and they're kinda boring. Haha! So Hi5 songs were ok. =)

3. Play, play and play.
By playing (a lot) with Nadrah, i realised that she learnt faster and better. For example, throwing a ball. Up and Down. Ball is Round. Push the Ball. Throw the Ball. Catch the Ball.
Secara tak langsung, she understood what actions were, she knew objects, she knew shapes and colours, etc. Of course i had to repetitively tell her everything i did and made it fun for her.

4. Find out what they like and use it to your advantage muahahaha!
This is a lot of trial and error.
And money. I longed for Big Bad Wolf because that's the only time i get to buy books for Nadrah and good thing they also have activity books. Murah murah lak tu! Save moolah.
Nadrah doesn't like story books when she was younger. Now dah ok sikit. I realised that she doesn't like all the cartoony stuff. She's more into books that have real pictures. And good thing i got that Shapes & Colours' book for her, which i bought unitentionally. (It was only RM3, so i though, beli je la.). Turned out to be her favourite book.
See!
Different kids, different preference.

5. Repetition.
It's tiring, but necessary. Sometimes they get it and forget instantaneously, so kena la banyak bersabar juga hehe.
video

6. Stop comparing!!!
Benda ni toxic gila. I used to compare Nadrah to other kids coz i didn't know what she should be able to do at a certain age. Like i didn't know she was supposed to start crawling at, say, 10months. Is she supposed to start crawling now? How come anak so-and-so dah boleh crawling at 10 months? How come Nadrah belum lagi?
But when i caught myself getting frustrated for something so trivial, i insaf terus. I stopped it completely, and changed to using online articles from experts as guidelines.

7. Encourage them to speak in full sentences.
When they can identify the things they want, then make them say it in a proper sentences. Make it simple at first, and gradually add on more vocab & correct their grammar as they grow.
Nadrah used to say "I got have school today", "I don't got have water". Hahahaha!!

8. Control tv/gadget time at home.
I used to be very strict on that.
Now have to consider. When we're out, if it involves safety, i'd rather let her watch something on my phone than let her run around. I used to be able to chase her around, but now dah tak larat sangat. Especially since i have baby Isaac to look after too.
I tried bringing playdoh, pencils, pens, etc, to distract her, but sometimes they work, and sometimes they don't. When they do work, alhamdulillah. When they don't, i usually choose Hi5 for her or those phonics videos. I remember those days when our fingers were the only things she would sing..
Daddy finger, daddy finger where are you..
Here i am, here i am, how do you do...

Nightmare..

So i think 8 ni je la yang boleh pakai.
I think the simpler we do it, the better. Parenting i mean.
I've asked so many people on how they deal with their kids, and they all said the same thing:
"Kena banyak bersabar".
Or sewaktu dengannya.
And it's true. You need loads of it. So pray for it k!

Sometimes you just do you and suddenly everything's ok, and you'll be like "what did i do ek??? apa i buat sampai menjadi ni?"
It's like cooking.
If follow sangat recipe, tak semestinya jadi.
Tapi kalau buat ikut rasa kita (while referring to the recipe), somehow jadi.

Haaa~

I hope these notes (notes ke?) are helpful and beneficial! I'm sure you're way better than me. Cuma you tak tau kot. Hehe!
Just chill k! First-time mommies always have so many doubts about mommy-ing, but dont worry.
You'll get yourself together someday.

Peace out!

Here's the video k! Basically the same thing. Cuma nampak muka. =)

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

SMECTA ubat diarrhea suitable for our children!

Assalamualaikum!


I used to remember how my brother and i got diarrhea when we went to Genting looooooonnnggg time ago because we had some bad seafood. My brother diarrhea sampai demam panas. Kesian dia bahahahaaa! (sape suruh asyik buli adik =p)

Anyway, due to that, i always try to be careful when eating seafood, especially on holidays where we're not in the comfort of our home.
Nadrah is turning 3 soon and she's already starting to eat seafood, other than fish la, like prawns and crabs. She likes them, but as a mom, i have to sorok sorok kopek and gaul in her nasi before giving it to her. Dia macam geli kot tengok the weird prawns and crab shells.

So because of my diarrhea experience during holiday was traumatic, it's a good thing there's this ubat that TREATS diarrhea instead of just stopping it. Most importantly, it's appropriate for kids! Even 1 month old baby can take it.


See! SMECTA treats diarrhea and clears toxin, protects intestinal mucosa layer form the harmful bacteria/viruses attack when our kids have diarrhea.


There are 30 sachets in this 1 box. So for Nadrah, she'll need 4 sachets a day, and if us parents pun dapat diarrhea, we'll need 6 sachets a day. Best thing is, can mix in their milk or juice drink. It has some kind of orange-vanilla taste, so if mix with orange juice or some citrus-y drinks would be ok kot.

I have blogged about First Aid kit to pack for kids when we went to Chiang Mai, but here's an update of that list!
1. Nasal spray - in case stuffy nose
2. Voltaren - in case demam panas. Note that this is just a pain killer, so it's not meant to cure their fever, but just lower their temp for a while. this can give you time to see a doc.
3. Cool fever
4. Plasters
5. Thermometer
6. Bear-rub (sort of like vicks) 
7. Diaper rash ointment
8. Insect repellent - we all don't want our child to get dengue in a foreign country kan...
9. Minyak gamat
10. SMECTA - in case of diarrhea



Good thing the sachet pun kecik kecik je. So takdelah bulky sangat first aid bag budak.



Nadrah's already in love with this cute bumblebee bag. If you want one, all you have to do is participate in the survey k and stand a chance to win one k! Link here 



Ececehhh! Posing kemain!

Hope you find this useful! For more info, visit www.smecta.com.my!
Better be prepared than suffer (like how we did...).
Peace!